Why I Deleted My Facebook Account

I’ve been asked this a lot and have been meaning to post this last year but I thought it would be better to post this once I’ve reached at least a year from when I actually deleted my Facebook account. So one year (and about a month) later, here it is!

I still remember the time I created my Facebook account.

It was February 2009 and one of my college friends had told me about the newest social media website. She said it was like Friendster – this was more popular than MySpace back where I’m from – but the difference was that Facebook had games and chat all in one site.

She had me at games. (Yes, I played Farmville ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿฝโ€๐ŸŒพ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿท๐ŸŒฝ)

So I made an account and by 2012, I found myself with over 1,000 “friends”.


Sure, back when I was a teen, this would’ve excited me like “OMG! I’m popular!”. But in 2012, this overwhelmed me like, “OMG! Who are these people?! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ”. I did categorize each person under a certain list – ‘Family’, ‘Close Friends’, ‘Friends of Friends’, etc. – to help give me some control over what people can see on my account. But this ended up overwhelming me even more. I would literally spend hours checking (and rechecking) the ‘Friends’ tab just to make sure people were under the right list. (Yes, I know I’m OCD ๐Ÿ™ˆ)

This was so time consuming that I thought I should just delete some people off of Facebook. And so I did. I got rid of the ‘Acquaintances’ and ‘Friends of Friends’ – these were the people I had only met once or twice and never had any contact since (apart from a Facebook like every now and then). Basically, anyone I didn’t know personally or had enough time to get to know better had all been “unfriended”.

After the mass deletion, the list dropped by about half. And I felt a lot better.


In August of 2014, I met my husband. Of course, as it was silently mandated by the social media gods, we added each other on Facebook and eventually tagged each other under “In a Relationship”. When I first added him though, I noticed that he had less than 50 people on his ‘Friends’ tab. LESS. THAN. 50!

I was so amazed by this that I even asked him about it. He told me he just wanted his family and really close friends to know about his personal life; which made a lot of sense. I kicked myself for not thinking about that sooner. I probably had when I deleted people off of Facebook in 2012, but maybe I was just too afraid of what people might think or be confronted by them when we do eventually meet like, “Hey! Why did you unfriend me?” or “You’re such a snob!”. But by 2014, I really didn’t care anymore.

My husband helped me out for “Facebook Friends Mass Deletion – Part II”. Both of us went through my account and had gone over everyone that wasn’t on my ‘Family’ & ‘Close Friends’ list. He would ask me two simple questions:

  1. Do you know this person?
  2. When was the last time you saw them or talked to them?

Even if I answered “Yes” to question no.1, it all came down to my answer for question no.2, which was the deciding factor on whether or not the person was going to be deleted from my ‘Friends’ list. People I used to work with, people I used to play soccer with, and even classmates from high school & college were all up for questioning.

And so the “friend” count dropped by another half again. I had a little over 200 people on my account, which consisted of family members – including the distant relatives & extended family – plus my closest friends.


Fast forward to mid-February 2017 when my husband & I had just moved in to our new apartment in San Diego. By this time, I was just so fed up with the drama that IS Facebook that I spent a day contemplating whether or not to just delete my account entirely and thought I’d bring it up with my husband when he got back from work.

The drama I’m talking about isn’t just about the annoying things some family & friends do on Facebook like the oversharing, political rants or fighting with random people online in the comments section. But it’s also about how the whole site makes you feel. You subconsciously find yourself competing and comparing yourself with your family & friends for the best photo of the newest restaurant that just opened down the street, who had the best time on St. Patrick’s Day, or who just got the newest iPhone.

Facebook has made us care too much of what people think about how we’re living our lives instead of actually just living it. It’s just one big black hole that seems to be consuming all of our time just scrolling through our ‘News Feed’.

So when my husband came home that day, I first asked him how his day went. And as if this was the sign that I was looking for, he told me they had a little seminar at work about being safe online and what not to post on your social media account(s) – this is a very serious matter for him since my husband is in the military and it gets even more serious whenever they leave for deployment.

When he told me this, the first thing I said was, “Oh great! That makes it even easier for me to delete my account”. I then explained to him my issues with Facebook and wanting to delete my account. I was really happy that he felt the same way.

And so, we downloaded all the photos on our accounts and finally said goodbye to the social media site.


A year later, I could say that I feel a whole lot better; and my husband says he does too. Apart from having more time for each other, I feel like I have more time on my hands now to knit & manage my Etsy shop, workout, and even write this blog today! (YAY!).

As for our family & friends, we definitely have a lot more to talk about now that we don’t have Facebook accounts. Updating them with what’s going on with our lives (and vice versa) is a lot more genuine than learning about it via a Facebook post.

So here we are, Facebook sober for a little over a year and there’s no more oversharing, competing, and comparing. Just more living, loving, and laughing. ๐Ÿ’‘

6 thoughts on “Why I Deleted My Facebook Account

  1. Itโ€™s funny that you posted this because I nearly wrote a very similar post to this, including several reasons you listed. I havenโ€™t deleted my account but it is something that I am considering. I only get on it every couple of days lately just to check my daughter who lives in a different stateโ€™s timeline. It can be useful, but for the most part it is just garbage.

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    • That’s awesome! Would love to hear your take on the subject too. And true, it can be useful in that sense. Most especially if your family is far away. Hopefully you’ll find a social media site that works best for you and your daughter without having to deal with Facebook ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. I struggled with this for YEARS before finally deleting my account, mere days ago (and starting a blog for the first time). It was hard, because on one hand FB let me stay in touch with my family which is spread all across the country (and they could see pics of my kids growing up) but on the other hand, it started to feel like a giant chore combined with an endless stream of meaningless voyeurism. It was exhausting. For a number of reasons, deleting my account just felt like the right thing to do – and the minute I did, I felt a huge wave of relief. Blogging for a social outlet feels a bit lonely – it doesn’t provide that instant satisfaction that having my most frequent FB followers immediately like my posts did, but I think that’s ok. Sometimes opening my blog to start a new post feels a bit like staring into a void and trying to determine what I should create out of it – while it’s unnerving, ultimately I think that’s probably healthier than always having FB to fall back on when I was bored, or wanting to check out, or needing reassurance that I was valued and valid (FB notifications are great for that – it felt like I was hooked on them at one point; so much validation). This experiment is forcing me to be a lot more authentic, self-aware and self-reliant, and I’m grateful for that. Thanks for sharing your experience!

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  3. Exactly! The validation is indeed so addicting ๐Ÿ˜ฑ I’m not totally against Facebook since it can be useful. Especially when you have kids and family members wanting to see what they did for Easter or what costumes they’ll wear for Halloween this year, etc. God knows grandma and grandpa will throw a fit if they can’t be updated with their grandkids’ lives ๐Ÿ˜‚ I guess this is where it becomes a chore though. But I’m happy to hear you’ve found the courage to just delete your account and felt better afterwards. Thank you for sharing too, hun! ๐Ÿ’ž

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  4. I deleted mine around Thanksgiving 2016 after contemplating it for a year. One of the best decisions Iโ€™ve ever made. It just became a popularity contest, Fakebook as I called it. Everyone showing off their perfect lives while gossiping about others. The breaking point for me was when family couldnโ€™t get together without having their phones out checking or posting to social media. Now, I donโ€™t have to know what is going on with the world. & sometimes, ignorance is bliss! I certainly have a lot more free time for the real people in my life.

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    • LOL “Fakebook” ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ Well said! And yes, ignorance is truly bliss – especially when people start gossiping like, “Did you see her post on Facebook?” and we can proudly say “No, I didn’t. I don’t have Facebook” ๐Ÿ˜Ž. Thank you for sharing your experience! ๐Ÿ’ž

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